Just lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what it truly means to be ‘Super’. There’s a lot of pressure on women and mothers to be superhuman, in that they should have the ability to juggle everything beautifully whilst still maintaining a calm and pristine outer presence.
I say NO to this.
That is not what it means to be Super.
I want to turn the whole Super mum concept on its head. It doesn’t mean that a women is expected to cook a healthy meal for dinner, shave her legs and run a business all at the same time! We are all ‘super’, just not in the way the term ‘super mum’ generally means. I firmly believe we all have something great within us, we just need the right mindset and support to find our Superness!
In the wise words of the late Christopher Reeve…
I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.
We are all super. We are all a hero. We just have to find it within ourselves…
When times are tough running a business (and they will be tough), when you feel like quitting, when you have to learn to do new things because it’s ALL down to you, when you cry your little heart out because it’s so, so hard, when you’re just not earning enough, when you look at other people doing stuff so well and you feel admiration and envy and frustration all at once, when people tell you to give it up now and get a job…
…When you carry on and on and on with entrepreneurial grit and determination because you know in your soul you can do it, THAT’S what super is.
I adore this speech by Matthew McConaughey* (Best Actor Oscars 2014 acceptance speech).
I’ve watched this a few times and at that final part when he speaks about finding a hero, I get goosebumps. I am always going through be chasing the hero within me because there is never going to be a time when I’m achieving/doing/knowing everything I’m capable of BUT I’m still a hero, I’m still super. I’m just going to get superer!
Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you to the Academy for this – all 6,000 members.
Thank you to the other nominees. All these performances were impeccable in my opinion. I didn’t see a false note anywhere. I want to thank Jean-Marc Vallée, our director. Want to thank Jared Leto, Jennifer Garner, who I worked with daily.
There’s a few things, about three things to my account that I need each day. One of them is something to look up to, another is something to look forward to, and another is someone to chase. Now, first off, I want to thank God. ‘Cause that’s who I look up to.
He has graced my life with opportunities that I know are not of my hand or any other human hand. He has shown me that it’s a scientific fact that gratitude reciprocates. In the words of the late Charlie Laughton, who said, ‘When you’ve got God, you got a friend. And that friend is you.’
To my family, that who and what I look forward to. To my father who, I know he’s up there right now with a big pot of gumbo. He’s got a lemon meringue pie over there. He’s probably in his underwear. And he’s got a cold can of Miller Lite and he’s dancing right now.
To you, Dad, you taught me what it means to be a man. To my mother who’s here tonight, who taught me and my two older brothers’ demanded that we respect ourselves. And what we in turn learned was that we were then better able to respect others. Thank you for that, Mama. To my wife, Camila, and my kids Levi, Vida and Mr. Stone, the courage and significance you give me every day I go out the door is unparalleled. You are the four people in my life that I want to make the most proud of me. Thank you.
And to my hero. That’s who I chase. Now when I was 15 years old, I had a very important person in my life come to me and say ‘who’s your hero?’ And I said, ‘I don’t know, I gotta think about that. Give me a couple of weeks.’ I come back two weeks later, this person comes up and says ‘who’s your hero?’ I said, ‘I thought about it. You know who it is? It’s me in 10 years.’ So I turned 25. Ten years later, that same person comes to me and says, ‘So, are you a hero?’ And I was like, ‘not even close. No, no, no.’ She said, ‘Why?’ I said, ‘Because my hero’s me at 35.’ So you see every day, every week, every month and every year of my life, my hero’s always 10 years away. I’m never gonna be my hero. I’m not gonna attain that. I know I’m not, and that’s just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chasing.
So, to any of us, whatever those things are, whatever it is we look up to, whatever it is we look forward to, and whoever it is we’re chasing, to that I say, ‘Amen.’ To that I say, ‘Alright, alright, alright.’ To that I say ‘just keep living.’ Thank you.
*There is a reference to ‘God’ and ‘Amen’ within this speech. I’m not personally religious…maybe a bit spiritual…just wanted to let you know. Please don’t think I’m getting all preachy – I just love the speech!
Watch Matthew’s inspiring speech below (skip to a minute and a half in).
I’d love to know what you think about the whole ‘supermum’ thing? Are you chasing the hero within? Share your comments below…